How I Was Totally Wrong About Dads In Iraq
February 28, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

At best, fathers in Iraq are semi-absent. At worst they’re fully absent, off spending time with friends and neglecting their family.
Or at least that’s what I thought two weeks ago.
Before Remedy Mission IX, my perceptions of Iraqi dads were pretty negative. And they weren’t entirely unfounded. Having lived in Iraq for a year now, I’ve met a number of dads who spend a lot of time away from their family, and it was hard for me to understand.
So I assumed that these fathers didn’t care. Why else would they be so absent?
The key word in that last paragraph, though, is “assumed.” I applied my own cultural understanding to contexts that demanded further explanation!

What if these fathers are away because that’s how much they have to work to put food on the table? What if they’re ashamed to come home because they can’t put food on the table? How could the handful of fathers I know here even begin to represent all of them? And this is probably most important question: since when did I become the time-keeper for fathers in Iraq?
I started asking questions like this at the beginning of our ninth Remedy Mission after I watched an Iraqi father cry over his child’s desperate need for surgery. It threw me off, and I thought he was the rarest man in Iraq I’d ever met.
But then another man wept for joy in front of me that same day when his child was accepted for surgery.

One father was able to calm his shrieking son just by whispering sweetly in the child’s ear. The boy was even giggling by the end of his echo!
Then another man wouldn’t stop holding his daughter after surgery, as though she might break if he let go.
One dad begged me for more photos of his child in surgery—each new glimpse bringing him to tears!
Another persistent father was constantly fretting over his daughter and would grab my sleeve and ask me questions like “Is it OK that she is coughing a lot?” or “When can she eat? How much? What should we give her? When?!”
One father enthusiastically shared his son’s story on-camera.

And, for me, this became the theme of Remedy Mission IX: fathers who desperately love their sons and daughters.
I’m honored to have met them. They changed my perspectives for the better and showed me something beautiful.
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Hugs And Handshakes All Around—Zahraa Is Going Home!
February 25, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

After passing her pre-release check-up with flying colors, the little girl in the red coat is scheduled to pack up her dollies and head home.
My sadness at visiting their hospital room for the last time was eclipsed by their excitement. They can finally go home!
Zahraa’s father beamed as he went around the room giving out hugs and handshakes. After seventeen million Dinar, three years of searching, and innumerable sleepless nights, his daughter is finally well and able to live a normal life—thank you for saving this precious little girl’s life!

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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Doctor Or Doll-Maker?—A Six Year-Old’s Dream Dilemma!
February 23, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

I got word that our pig-tailed girl in the red coat left the ICU and was resting in her hospital room up on the sixth floor. So I grabbed my translator-friend and made the climb to hear more of Zahraa’s story.
Her father welcomed me into their room and we all sat down. He jumped right in and explained that his family had looked for a surgery for 3 years and spent over 17 million Iraqi dinar (nearly $15,000) on their search.
Zahraa had even been scheduled for surgery 7 other times, but each resulted in cancelation. Sometimes Zahraa got sick, and other times the Iraqi doctors got cold feet. It was a lot of disappointment to stomach.
But the mood couldn’t stay sad, because Zahraa’s life had already been saved! Her father beamed with joy and gratitude as he shared of his daughter’s dreams: “She begs me for sewing supplies. She wants to make dolls for herself and her friends.”
He went on to explain that the recent surgery made her want to be a doctor. She still wants sewing supplies, but she can’t decide if she would rather use them to make dolls for her friends or to give her friends stitches!
Regardless, Zahraa now has this and many other choices ahead of her because of your generosity! Thank for saving the life of this precious little girl!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Grab Your Backpack, Let’s Go—Zahraa Is Leaving The ICU!
February 20, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

Good news! Zahraa (AKA the girl in the red coat) made it through surgery and is now in the ICU resting up.
In an effort to cheer her up, the ICU nurses gave her Dora the Explorer stickers and have been singing the theme song with her. It was a sweet moment, but now I can’t get that song out of my head!

Zahraa’s operation went so well that they are releasing her from the ICU soon. She will then spend a day or two in the ward, and after that she goes home!
I plan to visit the family’s hospital room after Zahraa is released, so come back tomorrow to hear more about this precious little girl and her trek toward recovery.
Come on, vamanos!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Her Name Is Zahraa, And She Probably Loves You
February 20, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

We passed the midway point of Remedy Mission IX, and, for me, everything seemed to be moving in slow-motion.
It was the best problem any hospital could hope for: boredom.
When the alternatives are problems like drama between medical staff, complications in the ICU, or even death, I’ll take boredom any day!
I had already completed my morning rounds of photos and family meet-’n-greets, and I was back dozing in the break room, debating whether or not to eat an extremely unripe banana.
Then the break room door opened and in walked the little girl in the red coat. She was hugging a doll and squeaking something at me in Arabic.
Her dad poked his head into the room, apparently glad to have found her. He seemed embarrassed by her intrusion, but we invited them to sit and share their story.
I learned that the girl’s name is Zahraa, she is 6 years old, she has a beyond-your-typical-little-girl obsession with dolls, and she needs an urgent heart surgery.
While talking with her father, Zahraa leaned toward me from her dad’s arms and whispered something to me in Arabic.
“She says she loves you,” a translator explained.
Initiating heart meltdown.
As if that wasn’t enough, she proceeded to grab my head and kiss me on the cheek and then to tell everyone else in the room that she loved them, too. Her malformed heart certainly has no trouble expressing love! But she still needs an operation and, according to her father, it is scheduled to happen soon.
Come back tomorrow and I’ll tell you more about the little girl in the red coat and her (hopefully) lifesaving operation!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
“His Surgery Would Be Five Years Away”—A Father Shares His Story!
February 15, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment
Doctors assigned little Nassir a number—119—and then told him to get in line.
“Should I get a hotel near the hospital for a few days?” his father asked. “No, come back in 5 or 6 years.” So Nassir’s father went home dejected with nothing to do but wait. But waiting could render Nassir inoperable, and then it would be too late.
But, thanks to you, Nassir and his family are getting another chance. Click here to listen to a father tell of his search for a surgery.
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
“…The Feeling of Being About to Reach My Dream!”
February 13, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

“But nothing else makes me feel like this; just the feeling of internal happiness; the feeling of being on the short way to being a cardiac surgeon—even a beginner one—the feeling of being about to reach my dream!”
This came in an email from one of the local surgeons receiving training right now in southern Iraq! This doctor’s excitement is so contagious—he even makes me want to learn more about medicine. Thank you for empowering his compassion for his compatriots!
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We are now halfway through our ninth surgical mission in Iraq, and the excitement has yet to die down. The press are swarming our break room even as I write this, and we’re looking into every lens and delivering the same message: there is a Coalition that is committed to eradicating this backlog of children in need of surgery!
Seven days in, and we have already seen ten children receive surgery. Come back tomorrow to meet one of my favorites!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
No More Crying—Hamma Is Going Home!
February 12, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

I was a little worried when Hamma had to be carried from the ICU into the children’s ward. But the doctors said he is doing well and should be able to go home in a few hours. Then, sure enough, he perked up and now he’s walking all over the place!

After a sick heart, a smashed nose, and a surgery, I finally got what seems to be a smile out of this little boy. Isn’t he cute?
And he has reason to smile! His surgery was a complete success, and he is going home. Thank you for making Hamma’s surgery possible, and thank you for putting his best days ahead of him!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Hamma Is In Surgery!
February 11, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

Remember super-sad-faced Hamma?! He’s getting surgery now!
I spent much of the day running in and out of the operating room to check on him. His father kept poking his head in from the hallway and whispering, “Psst! Mister! Photo Hamma?”
I felt like an image delivery boy with all the running back-and-forth, but letting Hamma’s dad ‘watch’ his son’s progress through surgery was extremely rewarding—at one point he even side-hugged me!
Here are a few of the photos I showed dad throughout the day:

(The boy isn’t alone here, the nurse just stepped away from the window)


As you can imagine, each picture I showed them brought on strong emotions, and by the end of the day his parent’s eyes were bloodshot from lack of sleep and crying. But the doctors report that the surgery is going well.
More to come…
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Believe It Or Not, Things Are Looking Up For Hamma!
February 10, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

This little guy is having a rough day.
And we’ve all been here, haven’t we? Sitting on some cold table with a bunch of strange people poking and prodding. It’s not the kind of photo we show you a lot, but faces like this aren’t uncommon to our work.
With a few exceptions, kids generally hate hospitals—this little guy even more than most. His name is Hamma, and his problems started about a year ago when doctors told his parents of Hamma’s need for heart surgery.
As if that weren’t enough, Hamma fell down the stairs a couple weeks ago while chasing his sister and broke his nose. I’m not sure which was more painful: the shame of being bested by your little sister or actually smashing your face in, but add his oxygen-deprived blood and the fact that he hadn’t eaten all day and this is the kind of face you get.
But there is a light at the end of Hamma’s tunnel! In fact, I think his best days are ahead of him, but he needs surgery first.
I sat with his parents in their hospital room and told them why we’re here, I told them about you, and I explained that the doctors have high hopes for Hamma’s surgery.
He is in line for surgery—come back tomorrow and I’ll let you know how it goes!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |














