New Houses, New Hearts—How Real Estate Is Saving Lives!
May 24, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

Congratulations, Matt & Devin, on the new house!
Our friend Shane Blackshear is in the business of real estate. He’s also in the business of saving lives. Join the growing number of people who are using their business to help save the lives of Iraqi children—write us!”
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
“An Idea Worth Living”—Hear Jeremy Courtney Speak At TEDxAustin!
April 12, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment
“If we live skeptically and only by the principles of risk-management, I fear we’ll miss the opportunity to remake the world around us.”
On a recent trans-atlantic trip, Jeremy Courtney was invited to share about the concept of preemptive love at TEDxAustin’s 4th annual conference.
This talk differed from his TEDxBaghdad talk as he shared new stories and invited attendees to consider how they personally might “do preemptive love.” And the video presents the same question to you: what can you do—small or large—to remake the world today?
After watching the video, would you share it? Your ‘shares’ and support help make our work possible—they can help save lives!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Tragedy To Triumph—How Preemptive Love Shocked A City
March 8, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

A week ago today our friend Jeremiah Small was killed in his classroom. His own student pulled a gun on him. If you haven’t read about it, see more here.
It happened here in our home city of Sulaymaniyah, and the entire community is still recovering from the shock of it all. Of course, the shock is about the violent death of an American in the oft-touted “the other Iraq” region of Kurdistan, to be sure, but the shock is also about much more than that.
When people in Sulaymaniyah heard that Small’s family was coming to Kurdistan to bury their son, rumors started to fly. Some thought they were coming for financial compensation, others for revenge. And in an eye-for-an-eye culture like this one, rumors like that aren’t crazy. If someone hurts you, you hurt them back. And that’s more than cultural, it’s human nature.
But that isn’t preemptive love.
Until someone is willing to absorb the pain rather than pass it on, violence will only continue to beget violence. Pain has to go somewhere.

So when Jeremiah’s family arrived and began blessing everyone they met, people were amazed! They were grief-stricken, to be sure, but through their great love the Small family proved to be bigger than anything most people had ever seen—they blessed rather than cursed, they sang rather than screamed; their love was furious. They even wore traditional Kurdish clothing in order to show solidarity with the culture.
This was their way of living out preemptive love. Just as Jeremiah worked to love his students first—no questions asked—his family came and loved Kurds preemptively. They were remaking a broken world by choosing to forgive rather than to yield to the endless downward spiral of hate and violence.

Perhaps the most compelling example of this love was at the funeral when both the family of Jeremiah and the family of the boy who killed him embraced (pictured above). They absorbed the pain—shared it even—rather than lashing out at each other.
This is preemptive love. This is the lifestyle we believe everyone can (and should) live by. This is the better way, and the Small family used Jeremiah’s death to show us that.
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Her Name Is Zahraa, And She Probably Loves You
February 20, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

We passed the midway point of Remedy Mission IX, and, for me, everything seemed to be moving in slow-motion.
It was the best problem any hospital could hope for: boredom.
When the alternatives are problems like drama between medical staff, complications in the ICU, or even death, I’ll take boredom any day!
I had already completed my morning rounds of photos and family meet-’n-greets, and I was back dozing in the break room, debating whether or not to eat an extremely unripe banana.
Then the break room door opened and in walked the little girl in the red coat. She was hugging a doll and squeaking something at me in Arabic.
Her dad poked his head into the room, apparently glad to have found her. He seemed embarrassed by her intrusion, but we invited them to sit and share their story.
I learned that the girl’s name is Zahraa, she is 6 years old, she has a beyond-your-typical-little-girl obsession with dolls, and she needs an urgent heart surgery.
While talking with her father, Zahraa leaned toward me from her dad’s arms and whispered something to me in Arabic.
“She says she loves you,” a translator explained.
Initiating heart meltdown.
As if that wasn’t enough, she proceeded to grab my head and kiss me on the cheek and then to tell everyone else in the room that she loved them, too. Her malformed heart certainly has no trouble expressing love! But she still needs an operation and, according to her father, it is scheduled to happen soon.
Come back tomorrow and I’ll tell you more about the little girl in the red coat and her (hopefully) lifesaving operation!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
“His Surgery Would Be Five Years Away”—A Father Shares His Story!
February 15, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment
Doctors assigned little Nassir a number—119—and then told him to get in line.
“Should I get a hotel near the hospital for a few days?” his father asked. “No, come back in 5 or 6 years.” So Nassir’s father went home dejected with nothing to do but wait. But waiting could render Nassir inoperable, and then it would be too late.
But, thanks to you, Nassir and his family are getting another chance. Click here to listen to a father tell of his search for a surgery.
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
No More Crying—Hamma Is Going Home!
February 12, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

I was a little worried when Hamma had to be carried from the ICU into the children’s ward. But the doctors said he is doing well and should be able to go home in a few hours. Then, sure enough, he perked up and now he’s walking all over the place!

After a sick heart, a smashed nose, and a surgery, I finally got what seems to be a smile out of this little boy. Isn’t he cute?
And he has reason to smile! His surgery was a complete success, and he is going home. Thank you for making Hamma’s surgery possible, and thank you for putting his best days ahead of him!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Hamma Is In Surgery!
February 11, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment

Remember super-sad-faced Hamma?! He’s getting surgery now!
I spent much of the day running in and out of the operating room to check on him. His father kept poking his head in from the hallway and whispering, “Psst! Mister! Photo Hamma?”
I felt like an image delivery boy with all the running back-and-forth, but letting Hamma’s dad ‘watch’ his son’s progress through surgery was extremely rewarding—at one point he even side-hugged me!
Here are a few of the photos I showed dad throughout the day:

(The boy isn’t alone here, the nurse just stepped away from the window)


As you can imagine, each picture I showed them brought on strong emotions, and by the end of the day his parent’s eyes were bloodshot from lack of sleep and crying. But the doctors report that the surgery is going well.
More to come…
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Seatbelts Fastened & Tray Tables Upright—Remedy Mission IX Is Here!
February 9, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment
Remedy Mission IX is here!
This is our first surgical mission in the holy city of Najaf in southern Iraq, and the excitement is electric! The local doctors can’t imagine the extraordinary operations they’re about to see, and families can’t imagine the hope they’re about to find.
And you made that possible! You chipped in, you told your friends, you skateboarded, you ran marathons, and so much more, and now we’re flying south to embody that good will.
Here we go…
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
VIDEO: Watch Jeremy Courtney Speak At TEDxBaghdad!
February 1, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment
Iraq’s first-ever TEDx event happened in Baghdad and, as the only westerner to attend TEDxBaghdad’s inaugural conference, it was an honor for us to have Jeremy attend as a speaker.
Jeremy spoke on the concept of ‘preemptive love’ and its ability to heal, reconcile and restore people to right relationship with one another. If you’re having trouble loading the video above, just click here.
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
After Only 26 Hours, Ali Is Out Of The ICU!
January 20, 2012 by Cody · Leave a Comment

Does this look like a boy who just had an open heart surgery 26 hours ago? I didn’t think so!
I got a phone call from Ali early this morning telling me not to bother looking for him in the ICU anymore. I walked into the hospital to find him walking around in the ward!
Not only that, but he was already asking me when he can go home. Ali still really wants to be a doctor, so maybe one day he’ll understand how important this time is in the hospital.
But I love that he’s still a 12 year-old boy who can’t wait to go home and play soccer with his friends. At this rate, who knows, he could even be home by tomorrow!
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Cody Fisher is the co-founder and Development Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He moved to Iraq in 2007 where he met his wife and since then they've been waging peace and mending hearts across Iraq. His passions are photography, peacemaking, and food that doesn't come out of a can. You can follow him on Twitter: |














