“An Idea Worth Living”—Hear Jeremy Courtney Speak At TEDxAustin!
April 12, 2012 by matt · Leave a Comment
“If we live skeptically and only by the principles of risk-management, I fear we’ll miss the opportunity to remake the world around us.”
On a recent trans-atlantic trip, Jeremy Courtney was invited to share about the concept of preemptive love at TEDxAustin’s 4th annual conference.
This talk differed from his TEDxBaghdad talk as he shared new stories and invited attendees to consider how they personally might “do preemptive love.” And the video presents the same question to you: what can you do—small or large—to remake the world today?
After watching the video, would you share it? Your ‘shares’ and support help make our work possible—they can help save lives!
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As PLC's Press Secretary, Matt Willingham writes, reads, edits, tweets, updates, and works with a camera so as to connect hearts and minds to Iraqi children in need. On the side, he likes reading stories, devouring the great food his wife cooks up and exploring DSLR work. He's also mildly obsessed with Twitter: @mehtin. |
Three Ways Our Vision Was Too Small—And How It Has Matured (Part 1 of 2)
March 27, 2012 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment

A few weeks ago we ran a short series on cultivating vision… these posts were not perfunctory. They were, in fact, my own practice of establishing the Preemptive Love Coalition with my wife, Jessica, and Cody Fisher.
In our earliest days we said our mission as an organization was to “eradicate the backlog of children in Iraq waiting in line for lifesaving heart surgery.” But the best visions and missions are dynamic, almost alive; they mature. And we are excited to bring you along in our vision as it has matured in recent months.
We have learned a lot more about this field in which we work than we knew when we started out. Additionally, the country and the individual regions of Iraq have changed drastically since we arrived. There were numerous occasions in which we said, “Does our mission still fit?”
Below are three ways in which we realized our vision was “off”:
#1: The Math—How We Saw the Problem
The math does not add up for us to “eradicate the backlog” on our own. Indeed, our vision in 2007 had largely to do with 700 known children in one Kurdish province who were in need of surgery; we now know about thousands waiting in nearly every one of Iraq’s 18 provinces. And we estimate 6,000-11,000 new children annually are born in Iraq with congenital heart defects.
How we see the problem determines how we shape our vision for the future. A problem with 700 localized constituents might warrant one vision. A nationwide problem with perpetuity and tens of thousands of constituents likely calls for a different vision altogether.
#2: The Method—How We Addressed the Problem
Local doctors set the stage by telling families there were no solutions in Iraq for their children who needed heart surgery. That was true. So families, local development experts, political figures and doctors all asked us to assist by sending children outside the country. On the one hand, we met a real need. On the other hand, we lacked imagination and delayed the development of long-term local solutions. It took us almost three years to imagine and implement our Remedy Missions—a far better use of resources to create local-led solutions for this local problem.
#3: The Message—How We Talked About Solutions
Because we began by exporting the Iraqi congenital heart disease problem to others countries, we largely failed to factor local healthcare experts into our vision for the future. We worked with one local cardiologist, but when we talked about our solution for “eradicating the backlog”, we largely talked about you—the donor—and how you were the solution to all the ills facing these dear families. We set up web pages and called on you to save the lives of children like Aras, Shad and Nivar. We still call on you to help save lives—but we feel much more keenly today that our message has matured, because our methods are finally dependent on locals. And that has happened because both statistics and ethics compelled us to see the problem differently.
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In part two of this post we’ll actually articulate our vision as it has matured. Come back next Tuesday to read more. In the mean-time, why don’t you contact me with your own thoughts and stories about vision? Please email me at your convenience. I would love to hear from you.
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Jeremy Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Executive Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He's also the father of two spectacular children, and married to the lovely Jessica Courtney. When not absorbed in PLC work he can be found writing songs and singing about hope and future. Follow Jeremy on Twitter: @JCourt. |
Meet Honya (Twitter: @honyamahdi)
October 31, 2009 by Jeremy · 858 Comments

Honya is a precious little girl. She is always smiling and giggling despite the lack of oxygen flowing in her blood to her brain and the rest of her body. At nine months old she weighs roughly 12 pounds. She loves music and toys that light up. Dr. Çiçek at the Johns Hopkins affiliated Anadolu Medical Center in Istanbul, Turkey is very hopeful that she will have a full correction and believes that she is likely to benefit significantly from surgical intervention.
Follow 9-month-old Honya on Twitter: @honyamahdi. Subscribe to Honya’s updates via RSS HERE. Follow Honya’s thread of longer stories (with pictures & video) on the PLC blog HERE.
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Jeremy Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Executive Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He's also the father of two spectacular children, and married to the lovely Jessica Courtney. When not absorbed in PLC work he can be found writing songs and singing about hope and future. Follow Jeremy on Twitter: @JCourt. |
An Interactive Graphic Overview of What We’ve Been Up to for the Last Few Years
August 23, 2009 by Jeremy · 486 Comments
Drag and drop and click and scroll and comment and push and play your way through some of our [online] activity from the last year.
Special Features of Note:
Be sure to Click on Map>Play Events for a Worldwide Conversation of Sorts Between Our Offices Around the World
View fullscreen below for more room to play around!
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Jeremy Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Executive Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He's also the father of two spectacular children, and married to the lovely Jessica Courtney. When not absorbed in PLC work he can be found writing songs and singing about hope and future. Follow Jeremy on Twitter: @JCourt. |
Rezhin Doing Great Post Surgery & Growing Up Fast After So Much Childhood Lost
July 8, 2009 by Jessica · 1 Comment
Last Thursday PLC Family Advocates and a few summer interns went to visit Rezhin, a tiny and precious 12-year-old girl who received heart surgery in early 2009. As we watched a slideshow of her stay at the hospital, we were able to see the bond she formed with the PLC staff and the other kids who were there during that time. Now that school is out for the summer, she doesn’t have anything planned besides enjoying the break from school!
She is doing so well physically now (which is exciting!), but we can’t help but grieve the years of childhood that she missed out on while waiting for surgery…especially since she is now caught in the awkward age between being a kid and wanting to “grow up”. At one time during our visit, she pointed out a bracelet on her wrist that she got during her time away with a smile. This reminds us not to dwell on the past but to be thankful for the ways she has been healed and hope for the new way that she can live. We greatly enjoyed being in their home and the summer interns are particularly excited to see her again this summer before heading back home.

Rezhin represents another of the many Iraqi children who are not getting their surgeries in a timely manner. Granted, her condition had not deteriorated to the point of inoperability when she received her surgery, but she had already missed out on all of her childhood years, sick and playing it safe by the rules established for her by an easily corrected heart defect.
To help future kids like Rezhin get well and keep their childhood, please consider donating to the Shad Faraydoon Memorial Fund for Infant Surgeries by clicking here.
| Jessica Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Family Services Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. She is also a mother of two children and is married to PLC's Executive Director, Jeremy Courtney. When not absorbed in caring for Iraqi children and sharing life with Iraqi families, she enjoys sewing and scrapbooking. |
Introducing the Shad Faraydoon Memorial Fund: $50k to Fund 10 Infant Surgeries
June 29, 2009 by Jeremy · 56 Comments

Shad Faraydoon always stood a chance of being healed. Unfortunately, every day that went by throughout his ten year life was a day that further diminished his heart’s capacity to function on its own and oxygenate his blood.
By the time the Preemptive Love Coalition met Shad he was ten years old. We marshaled all the resources we needed to help Shad and in less than a month he was admitted to surgery in May 2009. Unfortunately, Shad did not respond to the corrective measures of the surgeries as we had all hoped he would. Too many years of living with his heart defects had hindered his body’s ability to operate as it was intended. A series of blood clots finally contributed to Shad’s death a week after his surgery.
We established this memorial fund with Shad’s family in order to fund ten surgeries for infants who will benefit most from early intervention. Shad waited ten years for his chance and every day made him a less likely candidate for life-saving heart surgery. In honor of Shad’s struggle and in hopes of using his beautiful life to help others we have established this memorial fund so that infants – unlike Shad – do not have to wait for life-saving resources to become available to them.
$50,000 to fund surgeries for 10 infants.


A Glimpse of Things to Come
In May 2009 PLC set out to film the journey of three children to life-saving heart surgery with filmmaker Michael Dalton and photographer Foster (Matt) Addington. Shad Faraydoon was one of those children.
To our great sadness and surprise, Shad’s ending was much different than we had expected. Nonetheless, Shad and his father, Faraydoon, will feature prominently in the forthcoming full-length documentary. It is our hope that the anxiety and anticipation, the hope and hopelessness in Shad’s personal journey will be a compelling call to action so that children don’t have to wait in line ten years for surgeries that could otherwise save their lives.
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Jeremy Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Executive Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He's also the father of two spectacular children, and married to the lovely Jessica Courtney. When not absorbed in PLC work he can be found writing songs and singing about hope and future. Follow Jeremy on Twitter: @JCourt. |
Shad Faraydoon’s Funeral
June 14, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment

We attended the second day of Shad’s funeral on Thursday in two groups: men and women.
The men gathered in the mosque for about 5 hours straight as other men who knew the family gathered to pay their respects. Inside the mosque the male family members stood around the perimeter and greeted the male guests each time they entered the room. Meanwhile the cleric sang prayers for the child.
The women gathered under a large tent outside the family’s house and loudly mourned the loss of little Shad. Hundreds of women turned out over the course of the last few days. It was an understandably intense emotional experience – especially for those of us who are largely unaccustomed to Middle Eastern modes of mourning.
Shad’s family has remained very kind and open to us even in the midst of their great loss. We hope to continue on with them insofar as they will allow us in the coming months and years.
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Jeremy Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Executive Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He's also the father of two spectacular children, and married to the lovely Jessica Courtney. When not absorbed in PLC work he can be found writing songs and singing about hope and future. Follow Jeremy on Twitter: @JCourt. |
Airport…still
June 9, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment

We were on the bus headed to the airplane when a Turkish flight attended came inside the bus and called for Faraydoon Hama – Shad’s father.
We both disembarked and began one of the most painful, maddening, frustrating discussions of our lives with the Turkish airline, the Turkish customs agents, the hired logistics company, and the hospital staff. We had all of 5 minutes to sort out the situation or be left behind.
The situation: Customs was requiring an obscure document from the Iraqi Consulate even though the Iraqi Consulate had assured us that everything we procured yesterday would suffice.
In the end, we were pulled off the plane and Shad’s body was held up in Customs another 5 hours. We’ve been rerouted to a different city in Iraq and are currently set to arrive at 1 a.m. this evening.
After all of that, we were informed that Shad’s body would not be on the flight with us. The logistics company ended up contracting a cargo company to transport the body.
All of this to say, Shad’s father and his family have seen insult upon insult added to great injury. I’m not sure there is much “fault” or “blame” to be cast here, but for a grieving father everything is seen in terms of fault and blame.
If all goes well they will meet their family outside the “gates” of their city at about 4 a.m. to begin the grieving process in earnest.
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Jeremy Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Executive Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He's also the father of two spectacular children, and married to the lovely Jessica Courtney. When not absorbed in PLC work he can be found writing songs and singing about hope and future. Follow Jeremy on Twitter: @JCourt. |
Shad & The Rest of Us Heading Home to Iraq
June 8, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment

After immeasurable sadness and disappointment Shad’s father, Faraydoon; Faraydoon’s brother-in-law who made a special trip from Sweden to be with him in his loss; and I are boarding a plane Tuesday morning at 11 a.m. in hopes that the logistics firm we hired will be able to complete all of the necessary procedures with Turkish Customs and our partners at Atlasjet airline so that Shad’s body will be able to travel home on the same flight.
We expect scores of people at the airport in Iraq tomorrow afternoon to receive Faraydoon and Shad’s body back and to formally begin the mourning process.
Shad’s life and Shad’s death have affected us each deeply… and it has clearly affected many of you as well. We are so grateful for the depth of your emails and condolences and encouragement that we not grow weary as a result of this horrendous set back but that we push forward for the sake of the thousands of other children in Iraq who – barring a lot of financial generosity and a miracle – could very easily meet a similar end.
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Jeremy Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Executive Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He's also the father of two spectacular children, and married to the lovely Jessica Courtney. When not absorbed in PLC work he can be found writing songs and singing about hope and future. Follow Jeremy on Twitter: @JCourt. |
Day of Prayer and Preparation for Shad Faraydoon Hama
June 8, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment

Today is a day of prayer and preparation for Shad Faraydoon Hama and the repatriation of his body into Iraq. Today, in accordance with Islamic rites and rituals, a Muslim cleric will be called upon to facilitate the washing of Shad’s body and it’s preparations for burial (which will likely occur sometime tomorrow afternoon, immediately upon arrival in Iraq).

Meanwhile in Iraq the men of Shad’s family have been praying for Shad and his father in their neighborhood mosque.
These are difficult days and many more are still ahead.
One of the preparations under consideration stems from the desire on the part of some to begin a memorial fund in Shad’s name as a way of funding heart surgeries for kids so that they do not have to wait ten years before they receive their chance at life. Above all, our concern right now is to honor Shad’s family and to not make a show out of his death. He was valuable and loved in his own right – regardless of whether his death leads to the benefit of others.
If we choose to act upon the calls and encouragements for a memorial fund, please know that we will have done so very carefully and in full consultation with his family.
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Jeremy Courtney lives and loves in Iraq as a co-founder and Executive Director of the Preemptive Love Coalition. He's also the father of two spectacular children, and married to the lovely Jessica Courtney. When not absorbed in PLC work he can be found writing songs and singing about hope and future. Follow Jeremy on Twitter: @JCourt. |







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