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Introducing the Shad Faraydoon Memorial Fund: $50k to Fund 10 Infant Surgeries

June 29, 2009 by Jeremy · 56 Comments 

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Shad Faraydoon always stood a chance of being healed. Unfortunately, every day that went by throughout his ten year life was a day that further diminished his heart’s capacity to function on its own and oxygenate his blood.

cicekquoteBy the time the Preemptive Love Coalition met Shad he was ten years old. We marshaled all the resources we needed to help Shad and in less than a month he was admitted to surgery in May 2009. Unfortunately, Shad did not respond to the corrective measures of the surgeries as we had all hoped he would. Too many years of living with his heart defects had hindered his body’s ability to operate as it was intended. A series of blood clots finally contributed to Shad’s death a week after his surgery.

We established this memorial fund with Shad’s family in order to fund ten surgeries for infants who will benefit most from early intervention. Shad waited ten years for his chance and every day made him a less likely candidate for life-saving heart surgery. In honor of Shad’s struggle and in hopes of using his beautiful life to help others we have established this memorial fund so that infants – unlike Shad – do not have to wait for life-saving resources to become available to them.

Our 2009 goal for the Memorial Fund is
$50,000 to fund surgeries for 10 infants.

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A Glimpse of Things to Come

In May 2009 PLC set out to film the journey of three children to life-saving heart surgery with filmmaker Michael Dalton and photographer Foster (Matt) Addington. Shad Faraydoon was one of those children.

To our great sadness and surprise, Shad’s ending was much different than we had expected. Nonetheless, Shad and his father, Faraydoon, will feature prominently in the forthcoming full-length documentary. It is our hope that the anxiety and anticipation, the hope and hopelessness in Shad’s personal journey will be a compelling call to action so that children don’t have to wait in line ten years for surgeries that could otherwise save their lives.

Shad Faraydoon’s Funeral

June 14, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment 

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We attended the second day of Shad’s funeral on Thursday in two groups: men and women.

The men gathered in the mosque for about 5 hours straight as other men who knew the family gathered to pay their respects. Inside the mosque the male family members stood around the perimeter and greeted the male guests each time they entered the room. Meanwhile the cleric sang prayers for the child.

The women gathered under a large tent outside the family’s house and loudly mourned the loss of little Shad. Hundreds of women turned out over the course of the last few days. It was an understandably intense emotional experience – especially for those of us who are largely unaccustomed to Middle Eastern modes of mourning.

Shad’s family has remained very kind and open to us even in the midst of their great loss. We hope to continue on with them insofar as they will allow us in the coming months and years.

Airport…still

June 9, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment 

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We were on the bus headed to the airplane when a Turkish flight attended came inside the bus and called for Faraydoon Hama – Shad’s father.

We both disembarked and began one of the most painful, maddening, frustrating discussions of our lives with the Turkish airline, the Turkish customs agents, the hired logistics company, and the hospital staff. We had all of 5 minutes to sort out the situation or be left behind.

The situation: Customs was requiring an obscure document from the Iraqi Consulate even though the Iraqi Consulate had assured us that everything we procured yesterday would suffice.

In the end, we were pulled off the plane and Shad’s body was held up in Customs another 5 hours. We’ve been rerouted to a different city in Iraq and are currently set to arrive at 1 a.m. this evening.

After all of that, we were informed that Shad’s body would not be on the flight with us. The logistics company ended up contracting a cargo company to transport the body.

All of this to say, Shad’s father and his family have seen insult upon insult added to great injury. I’m not sure there is much “fault” or “blame” to be cast here, but for a grieving father everything is seen in terms of fault and blame.

If all goes well they will meet their family outside the “gates” of their city at about 4 a.m. to begin the grieving process in earnest.

Shad & The Rest of Us Heading Home to Iraq

June 8, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment 

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After immeasurable sadness and disappointment Shad’s father, Faraydoon; Faraydoon’s brother-in-law who made a special trip from Sweden to be with him in his loss; and I are boarding a plane Tuesday morning at 11 a.m. in hopes that the logistics firm we hired will be able to complete all of the necessary procedures with Turkish Customs and our partners at Atlasjet airline so that Shad’s body will be able to travel home on the same flight.

We expect scores of people at the airport in Iraq tomorrow afternoon to receive Faraydoon and Shad’s body back and to formally begin the mourning process.

Shad’s life and Shad’s death have affected us each deeply… and it has clearly affected many of you as well. We are so grateful for the depth of your emails and condolences and encouragement that we not grow weary as a result of this horrendous set back but that we push forward for the sake of the thousands of other children in Iraq who – barring a lot of financial generosity and a miracle – could very easily meet a similar end.

Day of Prayer and Preparation for Shad Faraydoon Hama

June 8, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment 

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Today is a day of prayer and preparation for Shad Faraydoon Hama and the repatriation of his body into Iraq. Today, in accordance with Islamic rites and rituals, a Muslim cleric will be called upon to facilitate the washing of Shad’s body and it’s preparations for burial (which will likely occur sometime tomorrow afternoon, immediately upon arrival in Iraq).

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Meanwhile in Iraq the men of Shad’s family have been praying for Shad and his father in their neighborhood mosque.

These are difficult days and many more are still ahead.

One of the preparations under consideration stems from the desire on the part of some to begin a memorial fund in Shad’s name as a way of funding heart surgeries for kids so that they do not have to wait ten years before they receive their chance at life. Above all, our concern right now is to honor Shad’s family and to not make a show out of his death. He was valuable and loved in his own right – regardless of whether his death leads to the benefit of others.

If we choose to act upon the calls and encouragements for a memorial fund, please know that we will have done so very carefully and in full consultation with his family.

Shad Faraydoon Hama (b. Nov. 18, 1999 – d. June 6, 2009)

June 6, 2009 by Jeremy · 5 Comments 

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Shad Faraydoon Hama passed away this morning after ten years of fighting the heart disease, blood problems, and the resulting pulmonary embolism that finally took his life.

Dr. Sertaç Çiçek and his team tried everything known in the realm of pediatric cardiology to save Shad’s life… but in the end ten years of suffering had taken too much of a toll on his increasingly fragile body.

On June 3rd – when Shad was still surprising everyone by how well he was doing – he and his father talked extensively about when he would be going home. His father insisted that they would leave on Saturday. But Shad – as though he knew something that no one else knew – maintained that he would not be ready to leave by Saturday… that they would return together on the Tuesday morning flight.

In the end, they were both right. Shad did leave this place today, Saturday, June 6th. And his father is scheduled to return to his home city with his son’s body on Tuesday, June 9th.

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As we stood with his father by Shad’s bedside this morning just minutes after his death, the most joyous and saddest words I’ve ever heard with my own ears were spoken by Shad’s father to his little boy. He said:

My dearest little Shad, your life on this earth was so difficult and full of sadness. But it was such a joy for me to have you here. But now your life here is over; you are in Joy and Happiness forever. But now I am the one left in difficulty and sadness without you.

You were like seven sons to me. You were like seven brothers, too. My son! My friend! What will I tell your mother? What will I tell your grandmother? My eldest boy… how can I live without you?

Xwa hafiz, Shada gyan. Xwa hafiz.

Shad in Critical Condition after Two Emergency Surgeries

June 4, 2009 by Jeremy · 4 Comments 

Ten year old Shad is back in ICU after a surprisingly wonderful night last night with his father up in their personal hospital room. Shad spoke with his dad a great deal last night about his excitement to return to Iraq, his eagerness to sit with his mom and play with his little brother and little sister, and his excitement over how many people were going to come visit him upon his return.

But if things do not turn around significantly – and fast – it looks as though many people will come to visit Shad in Iraq, but not in the way we’d all hoped and planned.

Shad’s blood does not respond well to anti-coagulants, being very viscous and subject to so many years of oxygen deficiency. Last night after a sudden bout of diarrhea it seems that Shad became dehydrated very quickly giving rise to blood clots which eventually blocked the flow of blood in his pulmonary artery. His oxygen level quickly decreased as he was rushed to the ICU.

He was quickly admitted to his third surgery in a week where doctors put him back on the “heart and lung” machine and began their third attempt at correcting years of damage.

But three hours after the surgery finished, while resting under heavy sedation in ICU, Shad went into cardiac arrest again and the doctors had to open him up in ICU and perform the fourth surgery on Shad.

As we write this (10pm, Istanbul, 06/04/09) Shad is still in critical condition but his father has lost all hope that he will pull through. Doctors are saying there is a chance, but it is clear that after ten years and four surgeries in one week the odds are severely stacked against him.

In the midst of great grief (real and anticipated) Shad’s father has been very grateful today to Dr. Çiçek, his team, the nursing staff, PLC, and ultimately to God – in whose hands are all things. He has also spent a lot of time telling us how much he has learned from his son about patience, kindness, and caring for others.

In any case, Shad was made to wait ten years too long for these surgeries. But it doesn’t have to be too late for other children in Iraq.

Shad is still alive. And so is our hope.

Better Late Than Never: Shad Comes Out of ICU!

June 2, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment 

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It took him longer than the rest of the kids – a direct result of so many emaciating years of lack of oxygen that has made his body too weak to cough (to clear his lungs) and move on his own. Nonetheless, Shad emerged from ICU today and is on the road to being a much healthier young man! A weight has clearly been lifted off his father’s remarkably strong shoulders…

Thanks for all you’ve done to make this new future a reality for Shad, his parents, and his little brother and sister.

Shad Makes it Through Surgery!

May 27, 2009 by Jeremy · 1 Comment 

This is what a fighting chance at life looks like!

But Shad’s dad couldn’t stand it… he said he didn’t want to see his son like this. He’ll return to ICU once they take out the tubes and have him more stable.

Nonetheless, Shad’s father understands the ramifications of this life-saving surgery and is full of joy and hope today.

From Shad’s family, Roman’s family, and all of us at the Preemptive Love Coalition “thanks!”

PHOTO CREDIT: Matt Addington (ToOpenYourEyes.com)

Shad & Heran Accepted to Surgery

May 25, 2009 by Jeremy · Leave a Comment 

We just left the cardio catheterization lab at ASM Hospital in Istanbul where Dr. Cicek has accepted Shad (10 yr. boy) and Heran (7 yr. girl) to surgery. It was a phenomenal moment!

Upon going upstairs and telling Shad’s father and Heran’s mother we all erupted in hugs and celebration… praises to God and thanks to each other after a long day of waiting, playing, and patience. It was a moment we will never forget!

Roman goes to surgery at 10 a.m. Istanbul time, Tuesday morning.

PHOTO CREDIT: Matt Addington

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